Dating

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My personal experience with this wasn't anything out of the ordinary. As a young boy, I  had a few crushes growing up, held hands a couple times, kissed a few on the playground when the teacher wasn't looking, but all typical I'd say. High school was mostly self exploration and fooling around because frankly I was very intentional with milking those frivolous years. College had a few flings, a semi-serious and one "serious" relationship - yeah, you know the one that's a rite of passage for all of us as we transition into men. I've dated in my age group, slightly younger, several years older, and from different countries with varying cultural backgrounds. After all this, I wouldn't say its a stretch to say I could lend some good advice. Frankly, I don't care as much about this stuff as say my 17 year old self - but I'd love to help others get to this level of clarity. That's when you'll start noticing the more interesting things in life, and funny enough, it's exactly when girls will start pouring in - an irony as old as humanity itself. 

 You probably shouldn't be thinking on this too much if you're young and still exploring, but let's learn how to identify this. First off, it's not exactly what people think it is. The general idea is that it's some fantastical person who complements you perfectly that exists somewhere out there, waiting on you to run in to them, but that's all false. Frankly, this circumstance will be inaccessible to most people solely because of their individual state of minds. Recognizing a soulmate takes understanding yourself spiritually (not in the religious sense) first. You would have discovered how to be completely happy on your own and have an overflowing desire to share this happiness with another person. Soulmates aren't attracted solely off primitive factors like lust and status, but rather the desire to fully support each other on a journey to becoming the best version of themselves. Their mission is yours and vice-versa. The conversations aren't about experiences or memories, but rather sharing depth of self. Spiritually visualized, their conversations would look like souls entangling and becoming one. So yeah, you're literally required to ascend to a next level of being to enjoy this.  

You wouldn't just walk up to a girl and punch her on the arm as you would to greet a male friend - but some people might. These people lack awareness. Approaching a woman romantically requires tact, calmness, boldness, an ability to read  between the lines. She will likely not approach you. If she was forced to, then a small part of her will see you as weak for making her do it. Forget the progressive BS that's being spewed these days. It is 100% YOUR duty to make the move. Rejections and failures build men. Short term losses in life are long term wins for you. You're victorious either way. The key is usually to appeal to a woman's nature. Your presence must personify safety and trust. This might sound weird, but you'd have better luck pretending to be her father than a lovestruck boy. The safety and strength aspect wins any day, so even though you like her, lose the excitement. If you have to pretend to pull this off, then you need more practice and a couple more rejections, so go rack those up then all will become clear.  

You have to look good. There is no way around it. Get fit, get groomed and the most underrated thing (in my opinion) is your SMELL. If you have a nice face, but your breath is bad, then they'd rather talk to someone ugly. Ensure you practice good hygiene. Wash all the places that tend to generate more smells than the rest with extra care, brush your teeth (AND FLOSS) well. 

Some other tips:

• Shaving pubic hair reduces smells
• Buy a little breath spray 
• Good deodorant is 100% necessary
• Wash & dry your clothes properly
• Wash hair as often as you can

Your clothes must reflect who you are. Don't overdo it. Simply elegant is usually best. Ensure they complement your well toned body. If you're not fit, get fit! Linen Clothes are fashionable and well ventilated - they're my personal favorite. 

Women will pretty much always be attracted to a man with great ambitions and good worth ethic. It represents a road to stability and indicates that one day they can show you off - which is a good thing. The issue however is that with great ambitions and worth ethic comes less time for her. Aside from you both sharing in said ambition, there is no actual solution for this. Should you give up your ambitions, she will lose respect for you, but if you continue to neglect her, then there will be some kind of unsavory outcome, unless she's the kind that will stick with you no matter what. And in such a case - congrats! The typical case is that the men work through the hardship then find the woman after. Some men though have that stability a little earlier and can afford to find this time or maybe even create that environment where they can share their passion with their partner. 

 It was said that Zeus, out of fear, split humans into male and female since having both together would make them too powerful. Life isn't Greek mythology, but there is something to be said about the power that is birthed when compatible male and female energies unite. To enjoy this power, you must first find your polar opposite. Be honest with yourself and gauge where you fall on the scale of masculinity (work/ambition) and femininity (love/nurturing).

Example of a match:

Man: 75% masculine+ 25 feminine

Woman: 25% masculine + 75% feminine

It's the polarity that actually keeps us attracted. If you don't believe me, try being with someone exactly like you. You'd argue into eternity. 

 Every woman is seeking an escape from the ordinary. If you can personify strength, excitement and novelty while appealing to her inner child, then victory is yours! So don't approach women solely to get laid. Your murkiness will be obvious. Read Robert Greene's "Art of Seduction" to understand seduction types so you can play to your strengths and know how to break through theirs. People are pretty easy once you make it a game of psychology. And yes, it is a game. The "Love" part doesn't happen until the breakthrough, and that's the reality. And if you're unimpressed after the mask comes off, no need to feel trapped. Society brainwashes us to believe we have to stay - but never settle. If they don't blow your mind, then they're not "The One".

 EVERY girl I've ever dated seemed to always be on the verge of some kind of breakdown. Women cry a bunch in private (trust me).  If you're feeling intimidated to approach, just know she's not the  "Star" you've built her up to be. People in general learn to shield their flaws over the course of their life. What you see is certainly not the full picture. Frankly, the more conventionally attractive girls have their own unique struggles too. Sure, this approach is pulling confidence from a place of slight negativity, but a part of being the BEST is embracing your darkness - which can also be very attractive. Don't be ashamed of your evil. Use it!

Modern Society has somewhat programmed women to try and "steal" men away from their masculine friend groups. Ironically, the same masculinity that attracted her will gradually fade should you continue to yield to these increasing requests. We assimilate practices from the people we spend the most time with, so if you only spend time with your lady and yield to a feminine power, you will eventually become more feminine and she will grow to dislike you and you'll both be stuck wondering "Why?". This situation is nothing new. It has been happening for a long time and will likely worsen. Put aside time to be around masculine energy to be reminded of your role in nature, to stay true to your goals/passions and to remain the dominant presence that captured your lady.